Excerpt from An online Course: Where God puts two hearts in a home

“One young man inquired …Doesn‘t love just get tired and die from all the things you suffer through in a long marriage?

To which Uncle Bart responded, “you know the Greeks have four different words for love, not just one like there is in English and in order for a marriage to live up to its potential, each of the four types of love should be operating”.

Would you rather be driving a car on a trip across the country, or would you rather try it on a tricycle or bicycle? Having only one type of love in a relationship for example Eros (Romantic love) is like driving a unicycle! It‘s not the best way to get around, especially when the road turns rocky. You need the four tires on the road.

Just as God made a wide variety of foods and created us to be able to digest each one, He also created us to be able to appreciate each type of love. While a steady diet of even one type of love will help a marriage survive, a balanced diet of all four types of love ( storge, Phileo, Eros, and Agape)  will help make your relationship vibrantly healthy.

1 John 3:10  says, “ This is how we know who the children of God are and who are the children of the devil are: anyone who does not do what is right is not God’s child, nor is anyone who does not love their brother and sister” and 1 John 4:8 says that your transformation as a new creature in Christ will be demonstrated by your love for Christ and your neighbor. When you think about it… your spouse is your closest neighbor!

God commands us to love, and that includes loving your spouse.”